I have an illustration that proves this point. I have a friend who met a man online (Plentyoffish) and, while he seemed interesting, she was very busy and did not have the time to go out with him anytime soon. He lives a little distance away from her, so a first meeting would take most of an afternoon. They exchanged emails for a few weeks, until she mentioned to him that she had a friend, a nice single girl, who lived very close to him, and wondered if he might like to meet her friend?

After all, we are all single, and the world is full of great guys and girls, enough to go around for everyone. In her circle of friends, it is always polite to introduce all the new single men around and give everyone an equal shot at meeting Mr. Right. This man replied, saying that he would like to meet her friend and offered his phone number to be given to girl number two by girl number one. (Are you still with me here?)

When girl number two called him, however, he was kind of busy with work and rushed her off the phone, asking that she call him that evening. When she did, he was out, and she left a message. Not hearing from him, she called him again in the morning, when he again brushed her off with a promise of a call later, and here we are, no phone call. What happened? He is still single, still without a date, and he had been interested in meeting both girls. He wants to meet the first girl, though.

It is his loss, let me tell you, because girl number two is gorgeous, funny, and would make a great date. She called him simply because she lives in his neighborhood and happened to be free that week. What is the lesson, girls? Always maintain a little distance, and give him plenty of space to chase you, no matter how much you like him. Guys need to feel the really earned the prize by working hard to get it; only then will he really appreciate having you in his life